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A hard limit is a limit that is set before BDSM play that cannot be changed. A hard limit is something that either partner cannot or will not participate in whether for physical, emotional, or other reasons. In BDSM, partners set limits so that play remains safe and no personal boundaries are crossed without permission. For example, while BDSM may include whipping or caning, a submissive may set these types of play as a hard limit because they're on blood thinning medication or simply because they don't enjoy it. Limits are set before engaging in any play to avoid any confusion, injury, or unnecessary fights and arguments.
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Telling your partner about your fantasies can be one nerve-wracking thing, but actually deciding to go for it is another. A hard limit is something that you or your partner absolutely does not want to happen, and needs to be respected.

As a note, hard and soft limits are not just for a submissive partner to agree on. There are stereotypes about what Doms and subs are like and what they enjoy, but in reality they can be quite different. Think about how much trust they put in you to not be judgmental in discussing their deepest desiresand helping fulfill them if you both agree.

Or maybe not at all. In any case, trying to guilt-trip your partner is going to make anyone more enthusiastic about doing something they may not be personally into.

Not everyone is going to be into your ideal role play. And trust us; there are a lot of websites devoted to finding people interested in every kink under the sun.

You can pick different words to slow down or stop the play. Keep it around and revisit it with your partner. Maybe one of you has recently been turned on by thoughts of an act that was never on the sheet. Katy Thorn is a post-grad writer with a passion for writing about sex, sexuality, and all things rated R. She has a cat named Yoko, drinks too much black coffee, and hates writing bios.

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